Like Mother, Like Daughter is so accurate to Sophie, Jess and Juliet and I wanted to talk about it and point some patterns out.
Estee - Sophie - Phoebe, Tiger & Kaden:
Estee was always a very distant mum and her parenting style was more based on independence and pushing her children to do things for themselves. She was never very warm and forthcoming to comfort them and instead pushed them to handle any issues themselves.
Sophie grew up having to do a lot for herself and not having that emotional/maternal love from her mum. They get on great but more on a friend-friend basis rather than a mother-daughter relationship.
As a result, Estee's ways have rubbed off onto Sophie a bit. She struggles to show that maternal side as she lacks it a lot. She never wanted children for a long time and now that she does have them, her parenting is very different from Jess and Juliet.
She lived in New York + London for a long time, not getting to see her kids everyday. While I am sure this was difficult for her, she still did it when the choice to move back to Brighton was there. She is close to her children but she shows them a tough love whereby she also pushes independence onto them. She is showing them that by working hard you can get success and that in the process you sometimes have to make some sacrifices.
Alissa - Juliet - James, Hunter, Grace & Ava:
Alissa was always very overly protective and consuming, wanting to keep her children from getting into any harm or hurt. She constantly tried to keep them very close and this was smothering for both Juliet and Elliot.
Juliet's relationship with her mum suffered a lot because she didn't understand her mum's intentions at the time but when she did, things got better. Her mum was just an extreme worrier and wanting to keep her children safe. It may not have been the best way of showing it but she was just trying to do a good job.
As a result, Juliet as a mum has also adapted some of these traits (but to a lesser degree). She worries a lot like her mum and her relationship with her children is revolved around wrapping them in cotton wool and wanting to keep them close.
I think the situation with Hunter will be the first test of this as while Matt will try and take a different approach, she will try and smother him and ensure he stays close.
Jasmine/Louise - Jess - Ellie, Harvey, Mia, Addison & Theo:
Jasmine was never a great mum to Jess as she gave her up. Jess didn't receive any love from her at all and for a long time Jess had this approach to everyone, including children.
Fast forward to when she met Jack and built up a relationship with Louise (mother/daughter kind of relationship) this changed everything. Louise is very loving and always puts everyone before herself.
As a mum to Jack and Connor, she always allowed them a lot of freedom but provided a safe space for them to return to at all times. Her relationship with Jess has been very much like this, she provides her advice but doesn't overstep and is always there as a support if things go wrong.
I think Jess has learned a lot from Louise in terms of being a mum to her own children. She takes this same 'freedom' approach whereby she allows them the space to explore the world as they like but provides a warm and loving space to come back to. This has come with slightly negative consequences as she is the mum of a son who is continuing the 'Lawrence' tradition with the whole pregnancy thing.
Lastly, like Louise, Jess was a young mum and had the determination to just do things right and ensure she didn't let her children down. This came with a lot of challenges but Jess had learned to deal with them and not get too panicked or anything.
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